Write down 4 things you value most. Mine were morals, honesty, family, and my drive. They can be any four you treasure. Take a moment and really think about these things. if you had to cross off one which would it be. Try causing off two, now the third. Wasn’t easy was it, what was left? That’s what we do with our addiction. All these things get removed from our jar when we make our addiction the primary focus. What things do you need in your jar? The more things I have in my jar the further I am away from picking up. There are different sizes of things in my jar and I need to look at their importance in my life. Alcohol was the biggest ball in there. So many significant things couldn’t fit because my substances was paramount to all others.
My golf balls include: education, family, honesty, relaxing, selfcare, faith, morals, friendships, home, intimacy, my pets, anything I can’t live with out.
My rocks: play time, job, travel, swimming, my projects, my obligations, etc.
My rice: ice cream sundaes, a trip out, a night playing games, a nice restaurant dinner, my car, my boat, anything small I enjoy.
Those small things aren’t things I don’t need they just fall lower or the importance scale. i can still have a thousand of these little things in my jar but the most important are those golf balls.
So what can I do to focus on the golf balls? I am not sure yet. I know that just writing out this post I learned what I need to prioritize in my life. I suppose living my morals, reaching out to friends, showing love, continue my love of learning by going back to school. These are some of my ideas. Please comment or ways you find we can put these important things in the jar first. I’d appreciate your feedback.
Thanks for any comments, Kristen